21 Years Younger Than me

by Gorgeous Green Eyes
(Atlanta, GA)

Plus he is a Cop (Detective) and A Baptist Youth Minister ...Wow. You know, you just don't wake up one morning and say, Hey, I am going to sleep with a Married Man today...And believe me, I look 20 years younger than my age and I am dating men from 30 - up to 60! There is no shortage of men for me at all.

How I met this guy was when I had to file a police report for a Felony Theft (of which this cop was able to get a FELONY CONVICTION ON THIS guy)that had occured from a guy I had met ON LINE (!) and was dating at the time.....I knew he was married and it was like gasoline being poured on fire when we met....(I am 56 and he is 35)He actually took my breath away 6'5", good looking and sharp dresser...And what a gentleman :) And all of the sudden my case became a top priority and within 2 weeks we slept together...at this time He had not revealed to me that he was also a Baptist Preacher.

Found out later...(!) The attraction between us was unlike anything I had felt in over 25 years. (I have been married 4 times to 3 men)....(widowed once) The last time I saw him was about a month ago (we broke it off May 4th) and we were out for dinner and he turns to me and he says "I love my wife and I love my family"..of which I said, "You might get mad at me for saying this but You may love your wife but you are NOT IN LOVE with her because if you did you would not be here with me AND a happily married man does not step out on his wife.."

He just looked at me....And then when we walked to my car...he was on duty and was coming over later on that night when he got off shift @ 11:00...he had a huge erection in BROAD DAYLIGHT(VERY NOTICEABLE)(and he being a cop has a gun on his hip) in the parking lot (This was about 7:00pm)and said, Unless you hear from me I will be at your place around 11:00. I will never be able to get this visual out of my mind about him standing there looking at me with the erection! Especially after he had announced that to me earlier. I never intended to get involved with this man...he made excuses to come over to my office (I work for a law firm) and the Police Dept (his office) is one block away from my office.

And he even offered to come over my place initially to take fingerprints from my jewelry cases and chests (I had jewelry and furs stolen from me)And I knew he was very attracted to me and at one point asked me "Can you be discreet?" DUH. I really liked this guy, and NO, I never fell in love with him...although I could have...And I knew that in another lifetime, we would have been perfect together...We talked alot and the chemistry was fantastic and I am not talking just about the sexual chemistry.

I met him in January 2010 and the last contact was about 2 weeks ago. I tried to break it off with him back in early March but it did not last. He says he feels very guilty (and I was too) and I told him that he needed to do what he had to do FOR his two kids, 5 & 8 yrs old) and to love his wife and to not do this anymore... Sure, I had thoughts that we could be together and we knew that and we discussed it. BUT, the fact that he is so much younger than me is a main factor here, him being married or not. We both agreed that we are soulmates and sometimes people come into your lives to help you through an expressed need or to teach you some kind of lesson. He is a sweet gentle soul and for whatever reason he cheated...opportunity, desire, not enough attention at home, etc...

He was very kind to me and I will never EVER forget him. Sometimes you have to tell your heart NO. I thought of his wife and two kids and I had to step away from this...BUT it's not every day that someone makes you feel 30 years younger. And I knew that while right now I WANTED him there would have come a time in the future that I would begin to NEED him..this was a determining factor for me... I would probably have missed this man even if I had never met him..he was that special to me. And He will remain special to me forever.