When asked a question about the reasons behind cheating men, I am happy to say that I have an advantage in finding out the answer as most of my friends happen to be male.

Cheating men are everywhere, and they come in many forms.

Many surprised me. 'They just do not look like the type at all - you know, those typical playboy who love their night scene'.

I once had a friend who was successful (let's call him A) has what my modern girlfriends refer to as the four C's (Condominium, Car, Cash and Credit Card), and yet he cheated on his girlfriend of ten years.

'I am bored in my relationship, I just can't help it, there are many fish in the sea' - those are the answers my friend A came up with.

Is it true though? There must be a motivation and or reason behind everything. Whatever they are, the following are the real reasons why men cheat:

1. It’s in their gene

Well, this is the hardest for me or other women to accept, so I am going to get it out of the way. Although we expect ourselves to be able to control our bodies and make decisions, it's not always the case. It is the nature of men. They are simply not satisfied with the word 'monogamy'.

'I just need something new once in a while', 'I got too used to her', are several of the comments I've heard from few different cheating men.

Monogamy only happens when they finally rank the value of love and relationship above the shagging part.

So the good news is: Although men have some sort of hormonal genetic urge to just have uh..offsprings, once they are involved in a loving relationship with you they are able to control themselves and stay faithful.

2. She is not what I originally was attracted to

Yes believe it or not, men are still visual creature - and they just can't help wanting the 'greener grass on the other side'. This is specifically if you have fallen into the 'relationship laziness' stage.

No matter how much friendship and love are important to your man, he wants to make love to a hot partner. He wants to satisfy his visual cravings.

This is exactly why his eyes are wandering off to a new direction as soon as their partner become lazy. Couple this with an offered option such as a hot work colleague - it would be very difficult for men to turn that down.

Now it's not entirely your fault if you have let yourself go. Tell him that you need re-assurance. Tell him 'Let me feel good, and I'll make you feel good.'

 

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If you are asking the question "is my man cheating"?, do not confront him yet until you have proof, this is important. And while it is helpful to talk to partners about most relationship problems, this is NOT the case when it comes to infidelity. A cheating spouse will almost never admit to infidelity, unless presented with evidence to the contrary. Some men are just that thick that they don't want to confess no matter how big the evidence that you're presenting to him is.

Many times, the way to catch cheating men is to observe their behaviour. It needs your utmost careful observation.

There is nothing else that I would like to recommend at this stage but the guide "How to Catch a Cheating Spouse" by Sarah Paul.