Dating a Married Woman

by Shawn
(Texas)

I can relate to what others are writing, but I am a man seeing a married woman. In fact, I just sent her an email telling her to NOT contact me again. I hope I can be strong enough to abide by this and to also not contact her again.

So it's been going on for 7 months now. Luckily she lives in another state or we'd be in a much bigger mess. We met innocently online via a common interest. We traded several emails and then we started flirting. We've actually gotten together in person twice. She has told me (even from the first couple of emails) that she and her husband are not happy. He doesn't listen to her, doesn't give her attention, ignores her, etc. They have no children, yet she is still there. Her mom lives in the same town as she does and I have heard for months, how she is going to move in with her mother and ask her husband for a divorce. Yet something always happens. She claims they are now in seperate bedrooms and of course haven't had sex since she and I began talking.

She gets jealous if I talk to other women, turns the tables on me whenever I've tried to break up with her by telling me how horribly I've broken her heart and has even once told me she now knows what suicidal people feel like. Whenever her husband is off work, she either sneaks around to email me or ignores me altogether. Then as soon as he goes back to work, I hear from her again.

It's been a vicious, heartbreaking circle over and over again. So today, I finally found the strength to say, "enough." Please help me to be strong.