Follow up to EYES OPENED.

by Carol
(Sydney)

The M.M. whom I dumped 6 weeks ago has tried to re establish contact with me several times.

Yesterday he sent an email to my prime email address... don't know how he got it but maybe sometime during our almost 3 year relationship.

He said he had a small gift for me and would post it when he could get away from his wife. ... the wife he is trying to make things right with!

I emailed saying I would post it back to his house if he sends it. I also said that I don't want a reminder of a man who caused me so much pain and emotional distress.

I truly don't want anymore reminders or memories of that time of madness in my life. It just seems surreal and dream like now. I was grieving for a dying husband, who barely recognised me.

6 weeks ago I would have accepted the gift. I would have looked at it as the last memory of him, to be kept and treasured. Now I DON'T WANT any part of it. My feelings towards him have changed considerably. I can see him now as somebody who ruthlessly used my loneliness and vulnerability, and his wife's naievety to get exactly what he wanted. Never saw it before and accepted what he said about wanting to help me.... he was helping himself.

I wasn't special.... just especially needing somebody to pay me attention and give me some affection . He saw it and pounced.

BE AWARE OF YOUR EMOTIONAL STATE LADIES AND GENTLEMAN.

Look after you needs in a healthy way if you can.