Gone

by Sally
(UK)

I met my MM 18 months ago at a work conference. He told me he was separating from his wife after Christmas (2008) and from that day on we texted and emailed and talked - it was all my dreams come true.


We met for a few weekends...and then his wife found out and her abusive phone calls to me started, warning me to leave him alone. MM insisted that she was just trying to ruin his happiness, that the marriage was over, to just ignore what she said.


A pseudo 'divorce' crept into action, but she withdrew her petition, then MM did, and we were back to square one. Still I hung on - he would leave, he said, after Christmas (2009), after this, after that, after the pigs had flown.
The whole of 2010 so far has been me and him arguing - my frustration reached its absolute zenith and he finally, finally admitted that he was making any excuse not to move out. Even when his wife found a new bloke herself and asked for the house to be sold, he buried his head in the sand.


So last weekend I ended it. I couldn't even speak to him without a diatribe of upset pouring from my mouth.
The pain has been immense. I've been doubled up with it all week, bracing myself against a fresh wave of hurt.


But reading these stories has helped hugely - and the pain and sadness I feel is better than the constant insecurity, frustration and worry I carried with me for 18 months - was he sleeping with his wife, was he lying to me, was he seeing anyone else etc etc? Who needs it? Let it be someone else's problem.


Good luck everyone xx