Infidelity excuse - I fell out of love, I love you but not in love etc

I don't know about you, but I find the infidelity excuse "I fell out of love" and some other ones along the lines of "I love you but I'm not in love with you" very cliche-ish.

Before, this excuse is only used by high school and university students, those young adults who normally still haven't got their minds stabilised yet in terms of relationship. Nowadays though, this excuse is used by cheating men right through to the N-th year of marriage.

This basically means that one partner actually finds someone who just somehow triggers his feelings - so he feels infatuation (Notice, it's infatuation not love), and he just thinks he fell out of love with you - and use the normal cliche infidelity excuse.

He then starts to dream that he wants to have that feeling once again, forgetting that he once had it with you and just simply say he 'fell out of love'...

like.. HELLO!?

probably few weeks down the track he will realise that it's a short chemistry rush to his brain only, and it's not even a valid infidelity excuse in the first place.

Ok, lets explain some more about this type of infidelity (According to Bob Huizenga in his ebook Break Free From the Affair there are 6 types of other infidelity - have a look)

1. The media (Movies, TV, and soap opera) all show the infatuation side of 'falling in love'. Women are actually taught since they were small that 'marriage' is a happy ever after thing.

2. He usually needs some kind of excitement or drama because he feels bored that nothing is happening in the relationship.

3. He needs the feeling of being adored and the 'courtship' once more since normally when a relationship has matured people forget how it started in the beginning.

4. The cheating spouse claims to have 'fallen out of love' is just struck with the feeling 'grass is greener on the other side', especially BEFORE he manages to have intercourse or intimacy with his 'significant other'.

So for this type of infidelity, good news is that the cheating spouse normally experiences some guilt inside. He knows you are a good person or a good wife, and he doesn't want to hurt you to some degree, so he simply thinks he is selfish to try and find the infatuation.

To some degree, he also knows that his affair is nothing to do with you, but it's all to do with his own emptiness. I guess it's time to ask questions, sit down and communicate with him to take care of this.

As I mentioned earlier, I have read a book called "Break Free From the Affair" by Bob Huizenga, and I think it is a really good read - especially if you want to get out of that limbo affair state. So if you're a fan of books just like me.. have a look at it it's an eye opener.

Have a look at more infidelity excuse here - Why men cheat or Why women cheat