Older woman dating younger married man

Seriously this is insane, I am 36 and he just turned 28 and we have worked together for 4 years when we started talking more and I sent an email for whatever reason that led us to where we are now. 8 months later and I am head over heels in love with this man and have read all the articles and seen all the signs and yet somewhere I still find it all so hard to believe he doesn't love me. They do not have any kids and yet he says soon........soon.........but when is what I long to know? She wants kids sooooooooo bad and yet he will not give her any and does not want kids with her for many reasons as well. He Has always taken care of her and now she is working yet cannot handle it and wants to quit because she is always tired and wants to be a stay at home mom but he has paid for her to get two educations and now that she has chosen her path of which career to follow she still does not want this one either. Seriously I have heard and read some of her message and I am not sure how she copes with life on a daily basis - she is always tired and always sick and I thought he was lying but I have actually heard her wining on the phone messages like a little kid in need of a parent to take care of them. So why hasn't he left? Is he scared she NEEDS him to take care of her or is he really working on it like he says he is? He cringes when she calls or texts and I personally remember that feeling toward my ex-boyfriend prior to me leaving him......He is the most wonderful man and would do anything for anyone and DOES everything for her including cooking, cleaning, laundry, getting gas for her, shopping....You name and he does it. It is more like he is the wife and she is the husband. I have never been so comfortable in any relationship the way I am when I am with him and NEVER have I ever been sooooooooo in LOVE but this is what I am hearing all women in my position saying. He does treat me like gold but I only get him on scheduled time and my time is running on low fuel. I have lost my job, some friends and family over this situation and have been told I am a fool but he swears he is leaving and will prove them wrong. Any advise?